Powered By

Skin Design:
Free Blogger Skins

Powered by Blogger

Delusion pertaining to marriage and age of Lord Rama and Maa Sita

Recently there had been some controversies following the age of Maa Sita at the time of her marriage. Well there is no documented fact regarding this but scholars have tried to find the approximate age based on some of the couplets (sholka) and verses (chand).

After my post on this issue on my blog, one of the blogger friend suggested to put the same information in English, for those readers who might not be well versed with devnagri script.

It has been hundred of thousands of years when the great vedas and holy books pertaining to Hindu mythology were written. They have prevailing since or even before mankind. There has been huge transformation from the initial couplets which were been written on dry leaves, to the one being hand written on paper followed by printing on mass printing machines and now available on the internet. During this transformation there are ought to be changes in the original scripts, even though the essence might remain same in most cases. One of the reason for change can be attributed to people who claim to be intelligent enough distorted the facts for their own name, fame etc, or it can be due to mistakes which in modern era are termed as typographic error. So what we read is certainly not precisely word to word same what might have been written by those great sages. As we all know, at times one blank space here and there can distort the whole meaning what the writer wants to convey. And I believe that these are probably are the principal cause for such confusions prevailing today.

Birth of Lord Ram :

As per Valmiki and Tulsi Ramayan, Lord Ram was born on the ninth day of "Chaitra Shukl Paksha". Computer calculation reveals this date to be February 21, 5115 BC. Hence the birth of Lord Rama took place around 7125 years ago.

The Legend of Vishwamitra :

At the tender age of 16 he followed Sage Vishwamitra to fight with demons who used to create hurdles to hermit during his religious orison and sermons. This is well documented in Valmiki Ramayan following couplet.

उनषोडशवर्षो में रामो राजीवलोचन: न युद्धयोग्य्तामास्य पश्यामि सह राक्षसौ॥ (वाल्मीक रामायण /बालकाण्ड /सर्ग २० शलोक २)

Here King Dashrath, father of Lord Ram, is telling the hermit that Ram is only 16 and how can you expect him to fight with such demons।

After leaving with Vishwamitra and cleansing the evils, Lord followed him to Janakpuri where he eventually married Jaanki or Maa Sita.

There are only a few couplets in Valmiki Ramayan which describes something about the age of Mother Sita. These are

उषित्वा द्वा दश समाः इक्ष्वाकुणाम निवेशने | भुंजाना मानुषान भोगत सेव काम समृद्धिनी || ३-४७-४ ||
मम भर्ता महातेजा वयसा पंच विंशक ||३-४७-१० ब ||
अष्टा दश हि वर्षिणी नान जन्मनि गण्यते ||३-४७-११ अ ||

Here, in the first couplet, mother Sita is saving to Ravan, that she had been in Ikshwaku dynasty of King Dashrath for two years and got all the materialistic pleasure available for human kind.

Here, in the first couplet, mother Sita is saving to Ravan, that she had been in Ikshwaku dynasty of King Dashrath for two years and got all the materialistic pleasure available for human kind.
In the next one she says that when Lord Ram left for exile, his age was 25 years. And finally she iterate that she was 18 years at that time.

This concludes that Mother Sita left for exile with Lord Ram at the age of 18 and before that she was in Ayodhya for around 2 years meaning she was married somewhere at the age of 16.

The reason for confusion is that the word द्वा दश (Dwa Dash) is understood as one word by many scholars. If we read द्वादश (dwadash) as one word it becomes twelve. However if द्वा दश (Dwa dash) is read separately it conveys two years at King Dashrath place. Dwa is two and Dash represents Dashrath.

Hindi has got this peculiar advantage that if we shift the space just by one word the meaning of whole sentence changes. Say for example one want to say that "उस समय छोटे बच्चो को कमरे में बंद रखा जाता था" (Us samay chote baccho ko kamre mein band rkha jaata tha). This means that at that time kids were kept close in the room. However now if we shift the space by just one word बंद रखा (band rkha) becomes बंदर खा (bandar kha) and the sentence now becomes "उस समय छोटे बच्चो को कमरे में बंदर खा जाता था" Now this sentence means "That time smaill kids were eaten by monkey in the room".

So "band rkha" and "bandar kha" can change the whole essence of the sentence similar is the case with Dwa-dash and Dwadash here.

Tulsidaasji in Raamcharitmanas has also mentioned mother Sita was a teen rather than a kid. In Pushpwatika episode babaji has written "संग सखीं सब सुभग सयानीं। गावहिं गीत मनोहर बानीं" (Sang Sakhi sab subhag sayani, gawahi geet manohar vaani). Sayani in hindi refers to mature adult and not to kids.

So with all these in mind it is clear that due to lack of our understanding such things do arise which only reflects our handicap in understanding things with reference to context.


संजय बेंगाणी said...


पी.सी.गोदियाल said...

Thats gr8 Bhavesh ji, These mentally underdeveloped parasites religious muslims and christians should be given befitting reply in this way.

Utkarsh Naithani said...

What's your thought then of Sunder Kand (33/17&18)
Not only Seeta tell Hanuman Dwadash samaa again.
In 18th shlok she ALSO says 'Tatr Trayodashe Varshe'
They had to leave for Vanvas.
How would we explain This now?

Bharathi Suta said...

I think we are confusing two different issues altogether. Shri Ram and Sitaji had what we would call a "child marriage"---viz BOTH of them were children at time of marriage. This was common in India even till the 20th century. Ex: Shivaji and his first wife Saibai were also married as children. In a child marriage, both children live together as close friends till they reach puberty. The marriage itself is not consummated till then. That was the tradition of the time.

This is completely different from the case of Mohammed (the founder of Islam). He was 50 when he married Aisha who was 6. Further, the marriage was consummated when Aisha was 9, and Mohammed was 53/54. That is called paedophilia, when a grown man has physical relations with a below-puberty girl.

We should not confuse two very different issues. Lord Ram and Sitaji were married as children, just like most people used to be in India a few generations back.

There are good movies made on this topic also: see Balika Vadhu for example, that explains this style of marriage. The couple lives in one house, as best friends. They grow emotionally close. Later, when they both reach puberty, they realize that there is also a physical aspect to marriage. But both are roughly same age (with boy being slightly older). That's completely different from case of Mohammed---an old man who had sexual relations with a little girl. Please do not confuse these two issues.

Ababil Pakhi said...

You do not have any idea about what paedophilia is. It is disorder, where a man clings sexual attraction randomly to little girls and molest them or rape them, Prophet Muhammad (S.) did neither to Aisha. He married her. And didn't abuse her like krishna did to rukhmani when she was little. Aysha (R) was very happy with prophet Muhammad.

Parinita reddy said...

Thank you so much... all this time I was looking at the other websites and was shocked.. even I very much know sanskrit and what you have explained cannot have any controversies... great job.

Pankaj said...

Usitva means after leaving home that is Mayaka of Mother at the time of leaving home mother sita was just 18 years and her husband was completed 25 years.

Anonymous said...

This is false. you are changing the rules of sandhi vich-chhed here. dwa dash does means twelve, whether it is 2 words aor a single word.

jerk said...

They are changing the rules you ediot! Rather trying to find some solace by giving a fabricated interpertation .after all its all about the pride of the the GREAT GREAT dharma.����

jerk said...

Hello author!why are putting stress on ur brain musscles when you are not capable of proving something with logic and in a ratinal manner?
On one hand you say that seeta herself told rawana that she and rama stayed for two yrs after getting married to each other and then left for exile and at that tym i.e age of rama while leaving for exile was 25, while on the other hand you conclude that at the tym of marriage rama was 18 and seeta 16 .. haa ha. Haa.. how could rama be 25 while living for exile when he was just 18 at the tym of marriage and stayed just for two yrs in ayodhya after marriage ?? O maha pandit ji maha gyani ji snskrit k gyata ji .. rama must be 20 at the tym he left for exile.. 18marriage+2yrs in ayodhya palace =20..
By hook or by crook ,, you will prove the things the way you want. Pick something that suits the best from valmuki's and something suitable from tulsidas's and twist the facts..greattttt!!!!! Yup! द्वादश(द्वा दश)... bravo! Keep it up👌👌😘😘😘

jerk said...

Ever been in science classes? What is pedhophilia and its signs and symptoms? First learn properly, be prepaired and call me to debate ..

Anonymous said...

Child marriage never existed in Ancient India. Minimum age for marriage (for girls) used to be 16 while for boys it was 19-21. The concept of child marriage came after the Islamic rule in India. Remember how Muhammad married a 9-year old Ayesha?

Anonymous said...

How many places is Dahratha called Dash!!!! The fact remains that Sita was put to auction when she was 6, and that is when Raam got hold of her....

The hadith of Ayesha is itself doubtful... but you have never heard about it...

Krishan Jangid said...

It is more appropriate Sitaji was 16 year at the time of marriage. Ramcharit manas says sayani matchoure girl with their sakhi was gone to vatika for Gauri pujan. Then Sitaji stayed at ayodhya 2 years. She was gone to bakwas at age of 18 years.

Krishan Jangid said...

Agree with you. No child marriage issues.

ASIF ALI said...

Aye Hello! First educate yourself before any comment. Sita was 7 yrs old when married to Ram. According to old Ramayan Ram was 14 yrs old when he married. And Ram was 7 yrs older than Sita. With reference to scholars such as Umar Ahmed Usmani, Hakim Niaz Ahmed and Habibur Rehman Kandhulvi, I would like to present some arguments in favor of the fact that Aisha رضي الله عنها was at least 18 years old when her marriage was performed and at least 21 when she moved into the Prophet's house to live with him.

Unknown said...

child marriage was brought by muslims in india.
there is no recorf of child marriage in ancient india before islam arrival.

Mukesh Chauhan said...

akal ke andhe achhi tarah se fir se padh unke post .
he told when ram left ayodhya with vishwamitra ramaya was 16years . they spent few years in forest cleansing the rakshasa for few years till the yagna is completed.
he didnot say about rama age at the time of marriege. he only told sita age at the time of marrieg was around 16and when she left for banwash she was 18.
becouse he mentioned that she only lived 2years before exile in ayodhya.
from this we can calculate rama age at the time of his marriage.

rama was 16 left with vishwamitra. he spent around 6-7 years protecting rishis from demons for completion of yagya. by the time his age was around 22-23.then he left for exile at 25

Vijai Maurya said...

And also, all the literature has been modified while printing. Maha pandit ji has read the original one written on dry leaves.

Anonymous said...

Mohammed (the founder of Islam). He was 50 when he married Aisha who was 6. Further, the marriage was consummated when Aisha was 9, and Mohammed was 53/54. That is called paedophilia, when a grown man has physical relations with a below-puberty girl.
Why nuslims are so ignorant u can't digest the truth. Where is proof that sita was 7 yrs old ram was 14 at the time of marriage. We already Givens you our proof.